I am currently working with a collaborator on an article reviewing contemporary sex advice literature. As a result, I have been reading a LOT of sex manuals. They range from the thoughtful, interesting, and potentially helpful to the narrow-minded, prescriptive, and possibly iatrogenic.
I found one manual particularly upsetting: The Sex Starved Marriage (2003) by Michele Weiner-Davis. Below please find my (somewhat) parodic inversion of her message: